Looking for ways to encourage your husband? As married women, we want our husbands to know that they are loved in everything that they do. However, sometimes life gets so busy that we forget to be intentional with our spouses. Don’t worry, you’re not alone. That’s why we have put together 15 intentional cute ways that you can make your husband’s day.
Encourage him to seek the Lord
As everyday people trying to make it in the world, we can fill up our time with things that demand every ounce of our attention. From working 8-5 to dinner with family, by the time we settle down, we just want to watch a show or two and go to bed.
And I know from experience that it’s easy to let this become your routine. However, we need to continue to fight for our time with the Lord even if we haven’t done it in a long time.
As a wife, you can be on the front lines fighting for your husband. In good times or bad, you can be the one to encourage your husband to continue to pursue the Lord. In him being intentional with the Lord, he is able to love you and your family well and if a man is not after the Lord’s heart, then he is doing nothing.
Listen to him
You might be thinking “I listen to him all the time, what more listening can I do?” I know, not everything we talk about is all that interesting, but ask him how he is feeling about marriage, work, friendships, Jesus, and how he is doing.
The key to this is to accept that your job is to listen and not give advice unless he asks for it. Sometimes men have a hard time sharing their feelings and thoughts about day to day life. So, it’s important for you to take time to ask and listen and hear what they are saying. And generally, when your husband feels heard and unjudged, he’ll open up.
Wash his clothes
There is this relief and gratitude I feel when I come home and find that my clothes are clean and neatly folded and out of the away. This can also make your husband feel seen and loved. Serve him differently this week by washing his clothes.
And if you already do that then take it a step further and pick uphis dirty clothes that you always tell him to put in the basket but magically always ends up in the corner. Pick up the socks that he always leaves around the house and instead of getting frustrated at him, gently remind him to pick them up next time.
Make him his favorite meal
Food always makes people feel all fuzzy and happy inside. Now imagine being surprised with your most favorite meal on a random Tuesday. This is how your husband would most likely feel if you were to surprise him with his favorite meal and make him feel special and wanted.
Surprise him with a coffee from his favorite coffee places
If your husband loves coffee, this one is a jewel. Whether you make it or pick it up from his favorite coffee shop or door dash it, surprise your man with his favorite coffee to remind him of your love.
Spend a whole day doing his favorite things .
People always feel loved and special when there is a day set aside to celebrate them. I bet you’re thinking, “well that’s why we have birthdays” and you’d be right.
But being celebrated outside of birthdays and holdiays really have an even deeper meaning. So pick a Saturday where you can plan to take your man to do whatever he’s been wanting to do or wherever her’s been wanting to go and spend some intimate time together.
Take him to his favorite restaurant
Again, who doesn’t love food? But more than that, I fully believe that taking your man out and treating him out of your own wallet might really surprise him.
Even if you share a bank account, still treat him. There is that one restaurant your hubby has been wanting to go to but it’s a bit expensive. You can even sacrifice something out of your budget for a week or two to have the extra money to take him . By taking him out, you’ll show him you truly listen and you’d like to treat him for once.
Write him a letter
There is something beautiful about receiving a handwritten letter. You love it, I love it, and your hubby will definitely love it as well. Take time to write him.
Encourage him by reminding him of the things that make him a great husband, father, worker, friend, brother, son, etc. Remind him how much you appreciate all he does for you and everyone around him as well as the sonship he has in the Lord.
Send him a verse
Somedays start out rough and we need a little pick me up. Try sending your love a verse that encourages them to keep pushing forward and resting in the Lord. Remind him that everything he does is unto the Lord. Remind him to pause and ask the Lord for strength and peace to get through the day.
Let him know you are praying for him
One of the things I love doing is a getting a word for my husband. What that means is while I’m praying, I ask the Lord to give me something for my husband that would be encouraging, uplifting, and lifegiving.
Once I get something from the Lord I always text it to my hubby or I wait until he gets home to tell him. He always feels encouraged and loved by the time I took to specifically pray for him. And even better, take an extra step and write it down so that he can always have it to refer back to.
Make him breakfast/get him his favorite breakfast from his favorite restaurant
It’s a Saturday or Sunday and your husband decided to sleep in. Imagine him getting up and there is breakfast ready for him to enjoy. And not just any breakfast, but his favorite. Whether you buy, make, or import it from his mama’s kitchen, surprise your man with his favorite breakfast to start the day right.
Clean the house and add in a nice homecooked meal
There is so much pressure that can be relieved when you come home, the house is spotless, and the only thing you have to do is take a shower, have a nice dinner, and unwind.
To make your man feel extra special find a day when you can clean the house and prepare a nice meal for him for when he gets home. Remind him that you see him and recognize all the effort he is putting in both at work and at home.
Take his car to get cleaned/fill it up with gas
Who likes to clean their car and fill it with gas? Nobody, that’s who. One day, when your hubby comes home, grab his keys and go get his vehicle all cleaned up. Fill it up with gas while you’re at it. Remind him that you love serving him and doing nice things for him.
Send him out with his boys to do something fun
Sometimes men focus so much at work that they forget to make time to build relationships or spend time with their children. Find a night where all his boys are getting together and surprise him with gentle shove out the door and a “see you later”. Show him that you value him enough to encourage him to build relationships with other men and that he should make time for it regularly.
Have a movie night with all his favorite snacks
I have never met a human who said no to a movie night that is accompanied with all their favorite snacks. This is an easy and sweet way to surprise your man with a cozy date night in. And yes, this means letting him control the remote.
I believe making your hubby feel special doesn’t need to break your bank or your back.
What matters are the feelings and thoughtfulness behind the ideas and taking the steps to make them come to life. I would encourage you to discover (if you do not know already) how he likes to be loved. If he likes presents, time with you, for you to do something for him, surprises, hugs, etc. and then do that for him.
How he wants to be loved may be completely different form how you like to be loved, and it’s important to learn how to love him how he enjoys being loved.
Loving your husband should be a joy and an adventure that makes you think outside the box and helps the two of you grow closer together! I encourage you to try some of the ideas above. Have fun with it and let us know how it went as well as some ideas you came up with to do for your husband!